When is the last time you thanked your partner?

In the grand scheme of love and relationships, the simple act of saying “thank you” may seem small, but the phrase can have a profound impact.

Studies show that couples who regularly express appreciation for one another experience greater relationship satisfaction, enhanced communication and reduced resentment.

“Gratitude – simply saying ‘thank you’ or expressing appreciation – can be a powerful force that can transform relationships,” says Vikki Smoter, trauma-informed services clinical lead at Advocate Health Care and Aurora Health Care. “This small act of appreciation can open doors to deeper, more meaningful connections.”

Smoter says acknowledging someone’s contributions can strengthen trust and foster a sense of belonging, leading to resilient and lasting relationships. “We also personally feel good when we express gratitude, so it benefits our own well-being to make thanking others a habit,” she adds.

Another study indicates that gratitude fosters adaptive coping mechanisms and builds inner strength to combat stress.

“Regular expressions of gratitude can diffuse tension in relationships,” says Smoter. “When both partners feel appreciated, they are more likely to view one another positively, enjoy one another’s company, and contribute to positive regard and trust in the relationship. Whether it’s doing chores, planning dates or just being there in tough times, every ‘thank you’ helps your relationship and reminds you of all the great things about your partner.”

Smoter suggests these tips to cultivate more gratitude every day:

• Daily acknowledgments: Make it a habit to thank your partner for specific actions, such as cooking dinner or helping with chores. Acknowledging these everyday contributions can help them feel valued.

• Write notes of appreciation: Consider leaving small notes around the house expressing your gratitude. This thoughtful gesture reinforces appreciation in a charming and tangible way.

• Set gratitude goals: Choose a set number of times per week to express thanks, ensuring that it becomes a regular and intentional practice. For instance, aim for three specific moments each week where gratitude is expressed.

• Reflect on positives: At the end of each day, take a moment to reflect on three things your partner did that you are grateful for. Share these reflections with them to promote an ongoing dialogue of appreciation.

• Public acknowledgment: Occasionally, thank your partner publicly, whether on social media or in front of friends and family. Public appreciation underscores the value you place on your partner and can foster deeper bonds.

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